MY STORY BEGINS WHEN I MARRIED MY SECOND HUSBAND. I WASN'T TOLD THAT HE HAD KIDS WITH MAJOR PROBLEMS. THE OLDEST SON WAS A DESERTER FROM THE MARINES, HE LATER GOT HIT BY A DRUNK DRIVER WHICH LEFT HIM MENTALLY NOT ALL THERE ANYMORE. HE NOW HAD A BABY OUT OF WEDLOCK WITH AN EX WHORE AND STRIPPER WHO ALREADY HAD A KID, FATHER UNKNOWN. THE MIDDLE KID IS KINDA STRANGE BUT JOINED THE ARMY AND RECENTLY GOT MARRIED. I THINK HE IS FINALLY GETTING HIS LIFE TOGETHER. THE YOUNGEST IS A GIRL AGE NOW 15 BUT WHEN ALL OF THE PROBLEMS STARTED SHE WAS 12.
FOR 3 YEARS I HAVE LIVED WITH A CHILD HAVING SEX, DOING DRUGS, SMOKING CIGARETTES AND AND POT, STEALING ITEMS AND MONEY, BROKE INTO A FRIENDS HOUSE WHILE THEY WERE GONE AND HAD A SEX BOOZE PARTY WHICH RESULTED IN THEM ALL STEALING A LOT OF ITEMS AND MONEY FROM THE HOUSE. SHE SNEAKS OUT OF THE HOUSE TO MEET UP WITH GUYS. MY HUSBAND REFUSED AND STILL REFUSES TO DO ANYTHING ABOUT HIS DAUGHTERS BEHAVIOR. IN MY HUSBANDS MIND IT IS OK FOR HER TO BE VERY DISRESPECTFUL TO ME AND STEAL AND SO FORTH. AND GET THIS I AM HIS WIFE BUT THAT EVIDENTLY MEANS NOTHING.
WE TRIED COUNSELING BUT ALL SHE DID IS LIE THE WHOLE TIME. WE TRIED EVERY FORM ON COUNSELING TRUST ME WITH NO GOOD RESULTS. FINALLY 3 YEARS LATER DAD SENDS HER BACK TO HER MOTHER WHO WAS PISSED TO FIND OUT THE TRUTH ABOUT WHATS BEEN GOING ON FOR THE PAST 3 YEARS. WHEN THE STEP DAUGHTER GOT TO MOMS HOUSE, MOM PUT HER FOOT DOWN AND TOOK THINGS AWAY AND STARTED TO TRY AND UNDO THE PAST 3 YEARS DAMAGE DONE. THE STEP DAUGHTER GETS PISSED SO SHE TELLS DAD THAT MOM IS NOW ABUSING HER AND MOMS BOYFRIENDS IS ABUSING HER ALSO. MIND YOU IN THE OVER 3 YEARS I HAVE KNOWN THIS CHILD SHE HAS NEVER ONCE TOLD THE TRUTH ABOUT ANYTHING OR ANYONE. SHE IS WANT THEY CALL A CHRONIC LIAR BUT YET DAD IS SO WILLING TO BELIEVE EVERYTHING THAT COMES OUT OF THIS KIDS MOUTH.
ON THE KIDS FACEBOOK SHE WRITES ABOUT HOW STRICT HER MOM IS AND HOW SHE HATES WHAT HER MOM IS DOING. BUT DAD ISN'T WILLING TO LOOK AT THE POST OR EVEN CALL HIS EX WIFE TO SEE FIRST HAND WHAT IS REALLY GOING ON. HE CALLS HIS EX WIFE THE DEVIL BECAUSE SHE HAD AN AFFAIR ON HIM AND HE NEVER CONFRONTED HER AND STARTED THE HEALING PROCESS.
I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO NOW THAT HE WANTS TO BRING THIS CHILD BACK HERE TO LIVE WITH US AGAIN. IT WAS SUCH HELL FOR ME THE FIRST 3 YEARS, I AM NOT SURE IF I CAN GO THROUGH ALL OF THAT AGAIN.
DOES ANYONE HAVE ANY SUGGESTIONS OR THOUGHTS ON THIS MATTER.
I WAS A SINGLE MOTHER FOR 10 YEARS THROUGH MY KIDS TEENAGE YEARS AND I WAS VERY STRICT WITH MY KIDS BUT AT THIS POINT MY HUSBAND BLAMES MY 2 KIDS FOR HIS DAUGHTERS ACTIONS AND BEHAVIOR. MIND YOU MY DAUGHTER IS 25 AND YES DOES LIVE WITH US. SHE LIVES TO GO WITH FRIENDS ON OCCASION TO A BAR AND HAVE A COUPLE DRINKS. MIND YOU SHE HAS NEVER BEEN DRUNK AND ALSO SHE HAS ME TAKE HER AND PICK HER UP WHEN SHE DOES GO OUT. I TAUGHT MY KIDS TO BE VERY RESPONSIBLE WHEN THEY DRINK, THEY NEVER DRINK AND DRIVE. MY SON IS 23 YEARS OLD AND DOESN'T LIVE WITH US BUT MY SON IS GAY. HE GRADUATED IN 2011 FROM UCSB WITH A PSYCHOLOGICAL AND MIND SCIENCES DEGREE. LIVES IN WEST HOLLYWOOD ON HIS OWN AND WORKS IN HIS FIELD OF STUDY IN BEVERLY HILLS. MIND YOU NONE OF HIS KIDS HAVE GRADUATED FROM HIGH SCHOOL. BOTH OF MY KIDS ARE ACCOMPLISHED MUSICIANS, WITH MY SON CLASS VALEDICTORIAN AND MY DAUGHTER WITH A HIGH 3 AVERAGE IN SCHOOL.
HE PUTS DOWN MY KIDS FOR THESE REASONS, BUT DOESN'T SEEM TO SEE HIS KIDS ARE FAR LESS THAN MY KIDS EVER THOUGHT OF BEING.
HELP, I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO NEXT, ANY OPINIONS AT ALL WOULD MEAN A LOT TO ME.
